It’s so weird to look back at the last few years. How far we have come, how fast time goes by, how different our lives are from when we first got married and moved to the Southside almost six years ago.
I shared with social media a few days ago that my husband quit his job. He quit his big fancy corporate America job. The one that pays all the bills, puts food in our belly and takes care of important adult things like health insurance.
He’s the smartest guy I know and did not make this decision quickly. It was carefully calculated just like all his decisions are. We are so intrinsically different in that way. I jump head first, he tip toes and weighs out the implications of each decision he makes. It really makes us incredibly balanced as a team.
While he would pitch in with the business when he could, he rarely had time to devote big chunks of time to MELT. He simply couldn’t do corporate America any more. The constant phone calls, weekend meetings, late nights, all the time expecting more and more from him. He was over it. He was smothered by it. He left with his integrity intact. He gave his notice and finished his duties with composure and then he got the heck out of there.
We had long extended conversations about what this would look like. We went back and forth on when the right time would be. If we could afford it. What would happen if things started going bad for the business. But in the end, we simply realized we can’t predict the future. This is a step closer to what we want our life to look like. So we decided hand in hand we would jump and run head first towards what we want together. And our lives will change a bit.
So, we are walking away from security, not arrogantly but humbly.
With butterflies in our stomachs and excitement in our hearts, our eyes are filled with wonder as we plan this new start.
Photos by Casey Chappell
Sometimes I feel like I’m this weird anomaly because I’m not a chef. I’m a passionate entrepreneur in the food industry that wants do great big things. I love this quote from my girl crush, the dessert queen Christina Tosi.
“Being humble is one of the most important things, and not being afraid to put yourself out there is important. I think really successful chefs put themselves out there on a daily basis. You can never fake authenticity, and I think the more authentic we can get — the stories, the recipes, the trajectory, and how you got to where you are, how this recipe got to where it is — the more of that, the better. Nothing replaces authenticity.”
Photos by Fort Worth Funky
One bad day. That’s it, the end. It’s just a bad day. Tomorrow is fresh, tomorrow is new. Tomorrow can be good. Change your attitude and you can change your day, or just wait until tomorrow and wake up new.
I had the honor to attend Leadercast last week and the message was centered around being Brave. Rorke Denver a former Navy Seal said, “Bravery doesn’t have to be a solo experience, make it a team sport. Surround yourself with brave people.”
So much of what I walk through with my business is fear. Fear of the unknown because I’ve never had to do it before. For example, I’ve never led a team of people before (one that keeps growing), or made weighty financial decisions that impact my whole operation. Little bits of fear make me question my intuition daily and sometimes it can be paralyzing. I feel fortunate to have friends across all kinds of industries that share how they walk through their fears and how they make decisions. In the video below is a friend who boldly built a business around birthday parties. It is an inspiring watch, a reminder to be Brave.
In the darkness they shine…
The Brave Ones from Caravan on Vimeo.
“Shape the shapeless, lead the lost, we can change what seems unchangeable.”
-The Brave Ones
I sat down with a mentor back in December and he encouraged me to take a step back and survey where I was physically, emotionally and spiritually. It pained me to admit that even though my little dream was thriving, I wasn’t. At the time I was trying to make some big decisions and I couldn’t get to the bottom of my answer on my own. When I sought out his advice for business I didn’t realize it would be the kick in the pants I needed to look at myself. The easiest place to start was the physical. I was physically not at my best. I’ve been a runner since college, I thrive off the challenge of the discipline of pushing my body. But the business of having a shop left no chance for me to make it a priority. And frankly the thought of getting out of bed at 5:30 am every morning to put on my running gear on and make my way out into the dark wasn’t appealing. I knew I needed it. I sought out a running partner. My criteria was pretty simple, someone who could get up early and someone who wasn’t going to make me die as we trained. We started with 3 miles in December two or three times a week. We trudged through January adding on tiny bits of mileage here and there. We ran in sleet in February. When your weather app reads 28 degrees you could easily sink into the covers but not when you have someone waiting on you. You get up and run.
What if we treated the world this way, our jobs and our purposes on this Earth. What if we treated them like someone was depending on us? How different would life look if we just got up and ran to the hard stuff?
My latest run was a 10 mile trail run in Tyler State Park, it was a hard muddy run: